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October 2012
Good News - Broward Edition
Nicole Oliva
Annie Quinnell
Good News
Do you knowwhat it is like to
have to wait for something? Sure
you do! There are times in life
when we all have to wait for the
things that we want. If you are
single and have been for a long
time, you know what the waiting
game is all about. Here are seven
practical ways to help you use your
time more wisely during the
waiting period of singleness.
Pray-
Prayer is vital in the life of any
Christian. If you’ve found yourself
single and not wanting to be,
remember that the best place to
start sharing your desires are with
God. Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Be
anxious for nothing, but in
everything
by
prayer
and
supplication, with thanksgiving, let
your requests be made known to
God;” This verse can comfort us,
giving us confidence that God
wants to hear what is on our hearts
about the opposite sex. However, it
is also very important that we
express gratitude to God for our
current circumstances. Yes, you
maybe single and wanting a mate,
but in this current moment you
have a lot to be grateful for! With
Jesus, not a minute of your time is
wasted. This is not to say that
waiting is easy. Some days youmay
find yourself content with where
you are in your singleness, and
other days you may find yourself
begging God to bring that person
immediately. Those are the
moments when you need to pray,
and pray hard, for the mate that
God has for you.
Make a list-
If you wanted to make a cake
and didn’t have a recipe to follow,
how would you know what
ingredients to put into the mix to
make it taste good? That is why we
rely on Giada De Laurentiis or
PaulaDeen to showus how to bake
a cake that tastes amazing. In the
same way, when considering the
qualities and character of a future
mate, it is important to search the
Word of God so that you can find
out what godly ingredients make a
good husband or wife. After you
find out what God has to say about
the opposite sex, you can start
making a list of things that you
value as important. Start this list off
with character essentials you want
your mate to have. This list
shouldn’t be filledwith shallow, not
so important essentials such as
how a person should look or how
they should dress. However, it is
okay to be real withGod about the
desires of your heart, no matter
how trivial they may be. There’s
nothing wrong with praying for
your futuremate to share common
interests with you, or that their
differences will cause you to be
intrigued rather than bothered that
they are not like you.
Take care of your temple-
Ladies and gentlemen, let’s be
honest with each other. We all
know that you shouldn’t be
attracted to someone only because
of how they look. But we would be
kidding ourselves if we thought
that physical attraction is not a
huge factor in the equation of
falling in love. With that said, it is
important to maintain the body
God has given you by feeding it
with healthy foods and getting
regular
exercise.
There
is
something very attractive about
someonewho sees the importance
of living a healthy lifestyle.
Therefore, this is an excellent time
to invest in a gym membership,
join a running group or get
involved in a sport that you have
always wanted to play. Keeping
your body fit and in shape can help
build confidence, which is another
attractive quality that a person can
have.
Dress the part-
No matter what anyone may
tell you, first impressions count. In
fact, they can leave lasting
memories that someone will
reflect back to every time they hear,
think or say your name. For this
very reason, it is imperative to pay
special attention to how you look
when you leave the house. This is
not to say that if you wanted to
walk around your house in a ratty
tee shirt and sweatpants that you
could not. But, when you are in
public, everything counts and it is
best to always look polished and
put together. Remember, you are
single and you never know when
youmight be at the store shopping
and a potential mate could be there
getting groceries too. If that
situation were to happen and you
were dressed in clothes that did
not make you feel confident, you
would be less likely to smile at that
person or maybe even walk over
and grab at a piece of fruit that they
had their hand on to get them to
notice you.
Ladies -
you don’t needmuch to get
a guy’s attention. Seriously, just
keep it simple. Clean hair,
manicured hands and feet, clothes
that fit your body type and a nice
clean perfume that doesn’t scream
“I am on the prowl!” When it
comes to make up, always keep it
light and natural. When you make
a little effort in your personal style,
it shows a guy that you care about
your life and how you portray
yourself to the world around you.
However, don’t be so obsessedwith
how your look that you become
shallow and high maintenance.
Guys do not want a lady they think
will put their finances into a
tailspin.
Guys -
y
ou are a little bit easier but
no less important. If you have hair,
make sure to get a nice cut that
represents your personal style.
When it comes to clothes, you
don’t need to look like David
Beckham every time you leave the
house, but you do need to wear
clothes that actually fit. If youwork
out, you should wear fitted jeans
and shirts.Why not showoff all the
hardwork you put in at the gym! A
nice beard is attractive along with
clean hands and clean feet. Always
remember that all of these things
can be in place but if you have bad
breath, none of the above advice
will matter. When in doubt about
the status of your breath, always
have gum or Tic-Tacs on hand.
Women dig a guywho pays special
attention to the small things that
other guys could care less about.
Grow-
Everyone has areas in which
they need to grow. Broken
relationships from the past can be
very painful, but they also can be
very valuable in helping you to
grow as a person. With each past
relationship, ask yourself what
went wrong, what your role was in
contributing to the relationshipnot
working, and how you have done
things differently. Yes, the other
party may have had a huge part in
why that relationship did not work
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